Private 3-hour ceremony for healing grief ❤️‍🩹

Welcome brother/sister,

If you are experiencing the pain of a grief, I fully empathise with you. Even though we all experience it differently, I have been there myself and know how deeply painful and disorienting it can be.

When we experience grief, we may cycle through any of these five phases: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.

These phases are not necessarily linear. We may find that we are stuck in one or two phases, while skipping over others. We may find acceptance, then suddenly return to anger, or depression for example. This may not be intentional, but a way your system has “cleverly” decided to protect you from feeling deeper, painful emotions. This happens out of fear, when the system fears that you are already carrying too much, and any more would overwhelm it.

However, by clamping down, pushing away, ignoring or avoiding feeling these feelings, we may unconsciously be doing ourselves more harm. A strong protective layer may help you continue with your daily life, but if the underlying heartbreak isn’t addressed, this could eventually lead to chronic stress, burnout, low energy, self-doubt, anxiety and apathy to name a few. This could eventually leave you feeling stuck and perhaps lost.

You may have been advised by well meaning friends and family to simply “move on”, “get over it”, or “distract yourself with other things”. Perhaps, you may be numbing yourself with porn, drugs/alcohol, social media, or sex. This may relieve some of the pain momentarily, but unfortunately, it doesn’t address the root cause.

This ceremony offers a gentle space to do just that. It’s a space where you can begin to soften the protective layers, and tend to your grief with the care, attention and softness it deserves. Using nothing but natural medicines such as presence, compassion, mindfulness, breath and music. For those interested in working with truffles, we could work with a microdose of 1-2 grams. Truffles are legal for consumption in the Netherlands.

How the medicine works:

The mindfulness helps keep us grounded and prepared for whatever needs to come up. It trains you to observe your thoughts, feelings, sensations without reaction, without clinging or running away from them.

The breath serves as an anchor, and a great tool for regulating the nervous system if it starts to feel overwhelming. It is a way for bringing you back to the safety of present moment.

Music and sounds reach places where words alone sometimes cannot. They go beyond the rational mind, and deep into experience. It can help connect with feelings and memories we may have buried long ago.

Truffles can help soften the defensive systems of the mind. Not push it aside, but rather, help the system relax and let go of control so that we may open up to new experiences.

Together, when held with care and respect, these natural medicines create a beautiful and powerful presence. It is through this presence that things can begin to naturally unfold. Your inner system starts to trust you again. You can start letting go of the things that are no longer serving you, and release some of those burdens so that you may walk a little more lightness in your heart.

If this type of work resonates with you, please do not hesitate to reach out. There’s no need for you to go through this alone. If you are using AI as your therapist, please realise that it is only a machine not capable of real empathy or compassion. I believe that real healing takes place in the presence of others. The need to be heard, seen and understood by another is a beautiful human experience. Big tech corporations don’t believe so, or don’t seem to care. So please, if you need someone, reach out. I would be happy to walk beside you, and guide you safely through this part of your journey.

With much love and warmth,
Noah